If you have been thinking about divorce, you may have been thinking about some of your friends who have already gotten divorced. Some of them seem to have been going through their divorces for years. It may seem like forever ago that they began talking about the problems in their marriages and wondering aloud whether they should get divorced. At some point you probably heard that they filed divorce papers, and eventually you learned that their divorces had become final. Other people that you know may seem to have moved much more quickly, appearing at a party or other function as a happy couple one day, only to be separated and then divorced in very short order. If the topic of divorce has crossed your mind, then it is likely that you have wondered why some people seem to file for divorce on very short notice, while others contemplate it for a long time before taking the plunge.
There is no set formula for knowing when you should file for divorce. That said, since a divorce is a major life decision, it is important to think it through thoroughly before moving forward. As you ponder whether a divorce is in your future, it is useful to consider the following:
If you are upset about how things are going with your relationship, consider that it is possible that the problems that you are having with your spouse right now are a sign that things need changing within the relationship, instead of a sign that the relationship is over. The very act of addressing an issue and trying to work through it with your spouse can help you to see whether the two of you can work together to change things for the better. If your spouse seems willing to work with you to make things better and then takes positive action in that direction, that’s great. If, instead, they are not willing to acknowledge the problem or take any action towards working through it with you, their response may confirm your sentiment that it is, indeed, time for a divorce.
If you feel certain that you will soon divorce your spouse, make a plan for dealing with the emotional aspects of your divorce. Make sure that you are ready to experience the range of intense emotions that is an inescapable part of the process of divorce. Decide in advance how you will work through your feelings. Will you seek counseling? Do you have a network of friends who can offer emotional support and encouragement? What emotional needs do you think that you will have during your divorce, and how do you think that you will address them? Having a plan for dealing with your emotions as they arise throughout the divorce process can help you to maintain emotional stability throughout your divorce.
Planning for the practical aspects of your divorce is also important. Before you file for divorce, make sure you know how you will support yourself and your children if you have any. Know where you plan to live, what your expenses will be, and what you expect your life to look like during the divorce. Once you have a plan in place, you are ready to file for your Florida divorce.
If you would like to learn more about your legal options regarding your Florida divorce or any other important family law matter, please contact the Law Offices of James S. Cunha, P.A. at (561) 429-3924 or via email at [email protected]. We serve family law clients who are located in Palm Beach, West Palm Beach, Boca Raton, Wellington, Jupiter, Palm Beach County, Broward County, and Martin County.